Mary knows our pain

When I was first bereaved of my daughter, I thought that I was the only one who had to suffer the incredible pain that I had to endure. I thought no one could possibly understand. However, as time slowly moved on, I learned that other parents had experienced the death of their son or daughter, and in some cases more than one child.
Many blame God for the tragedy. Asking why he did not stop the thing that caused their death. Why should such bad things happen to any of us? I am no different than you are – none of us are to blame – sadly it is a fact of life that some people die young.
Nevertheless, we need not walk the road of grief alone. The Compassionate Friends,, helps bereaved parents, whose children have died at any age and from any cause, 0-99 yrs of age.
Jesus, mother Mary watched as her son was tortured, nailed to a part of a tree and died in agony. She was every bit as human as we are, therefore, she knows how we feel…

When does the grief end?

This is a question many bereaved people want to know. It is also one of the hardest to answer. Personally, I believe there are a lot of factors that affect how we deal with life and this in turn will affect the way we react to any given situation, especially grief.
How our parents dealt with the loss of their parents or close friends? Will be our first example of these traumas life throws up. We further learn as we go through life the pain of losing pets. Then, there is our own innate natures which do not always want to conform with how others examples have shown us what to do in like occasions. Then when it comes to the experience suffered by child bereavement, this becomes an impossible question to resolve.
Every other death we encounter in our lives, whether sudden, through long-term illness or disease, will be accepted, eventually. It will take some folks longer than others to work through the pain and missing, but it simply becomes part of their lifetime’s experience.
However, when it comes to the death of ones own child whether from: sudden, through long-term illness or disease; it can be for most parents impossible to find complete closure. Indeed many of us, including me, do not think it is possible to find any kind of closure, as while we are alive, and our child is not with us – how can there ever be closure. Children are not meant to die before their mums and dads.
This is why self-help organizations like The Compassionate Friends (TCF), CRUSE and SANDS and many others are invaluable to grieving parents.