Further help

There are many groups available for supporting bereaved parents such as Cruse. There are others who help specific needs of different causes of child death, The Miscarriage Association, Neo-natal, Murdered children and Survivors of Suicide, are just a few. To find a group which might be able to help you just type a keyword or two into your search engine.
The Compassionate Friends offers support to all family members and has within it other sub-groups for instance a Siblings support network that can help your other children cope while you can be helped at the same time. To find out how they can do this click on the link on this page.

Another website you might want to have a look at is Saying Goodbye http://www.sayinggoodbye.org.
This is an online help source for parents whose baby dies during pregnancy, at birth or very young.
It is run by the Mariposa Trust and offers church services throughout the UK and North America. Go to their website and click on the link ‘list of services’to find the dates and locations of their planned services.

Befriending

One of the worst things about bereavement is the feeling of isolation.
There are many people to help at first with the funeral arrangements and perhaps
for a few weeks afterwards visitors still come to see that you are alright. However,
eventually we are left to ‘get on with it’ and these times might be a blessing.
Yet it’s often when the full impact of our loss hits home. At this point others might
not come around so much.
We feel like talking over the death or about our lost child but there is no one willing to listen.
This is where self-help groups can prove invaluable.
To find out more about The Compassionate Friends (TCF) click on the links. Where you will find
parents who are wanting to support you.

Welcome

I hope through this blog to offer support and further information for bereaved parents, their families and anyone who wants to offer help to those suffering from the tragic death of one of their children.

Some of my views might not sit well with visitors, be assured, I do not wish to impose them onto others simply to state what I found to be helpful and which might help them.

These sources of help will be through recommending books and other media help; other bereavement support agencies and what I have learned from supporting many bereaved parents; and advice to newly bereaved parents that might help them to begin to rebuild a life without their children.

I know that when my daughter passed away the last thing I wanted to do was sit down to read a book. Even if I could have concentrated for long enough to make sense of the words reading was too much of a distraction from my self pitying which for awhile consumed me. Eventually, when I did go looking for books that might help I couldn’t find very much that focused primarily on the loss of a child. Now thankfully many bereaved parents have found writing to be helpful and have succeeded in publishing their stories to help others in the same situation as themselves.
If you go to amazon.com or amazon.co.uk you will find many options both as printed books or ebooks. I hope you find something that helps you.